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Love Mistakes That Are Keeping You Single
For Women

By Sherry Amatenstein

Tired of first dates that don't result in relationships? Sick of chasing after guys who clearly aren't ready to commit? If you've made an all-out effort to find your match with little success, maybe it's time to rethink your approach toward searching for true love.

Here you'll find five common mistakes women make in the dating game. If one or two sound familiar, don't beat yourself up. Just recognize that you deserve better and commit to making a change for good.

1. If you think love will never find you, it won't.

I receive many posts on the Dating Doyenne board from women whose romantic disappointments have left them convinced there is something inherently unlovable about them. They say things like: "Who would want me anyway? I'm sure I'm going to wind up alone." Obviously these women are as worthy of love as you and I. (Yes, we're worthy!) But they've come down with something so awful it can keep them solo for years to come: self-fulfilling prophecy, or SFP.

SFP isn't contagious but it will make potential dates run the opposite way. It's an insidious disease. Physically, it leaves the sufferer untouched. But the more one walks around saying, "I will never find love," the higher the odds that expectation will come true. Contrarily, the sunnier one's thoughts — "I'm such a cool, happy person that I'm bound to find love"— the sunnier the forecast for her romantic future.

If you're among those throwing one too many pity parties for herself, get busy: Start a journal. Each day write down something lovable about yourself. It will get easier with time. You can even consider calling or emailing a few close friends or relatives, so they can share reasons they think a man would be lucky to have you. Level with them about why you're making this request, and they'll probably be happy to help.

Whenever a negative thought threatens to invade your mind, replace it with a positive one.

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The Across-the-Room Flirt Factor…
How Good Are You?

(courtesy of links2love.com)

1. What is considered YOUR most important flirting tool?
   1. Great conversation.
   2. Your hands.
   3. Your body.
   4. Your eyes
   5. Your scent.
2. If you are interested in someone across the room, your best strategy is to:
   1. keep your shoulders turned toward them but don't look at their face.
   2. try to hold their gaze for 3 seconds or longer, look at someone else, then stare at them.
   3. continue to look at them and squint your eyes.
   4. not look at them at all.
   5. look at them for slightly more than one second, look away, then look at them briefly again.
3. You can assume the other person is interested in you if they:
   1. refuse to glance at you a second time.
   2. turn their back toward you after eye contact.
   3. look at you briefly and stop smiling.
   4. smile slightly after your second brief eye contact.
4. Once you approach the person of interest, as they are speaking to you, you need to look at their face:
   1. 10% of the time.
   2. 20% of the time.
   3. 50% of the time.
   4. 75% of the time.
   5. 100% of the time.
5. As the person of interest is speaking to you, you should look at them for periods of time of:
   1. less than one second.
   2. one to two seconds.
   3. one to seven seconds.
   4. five to fifteen seconds.
   5. fifteen seconds or longer…

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